Thursday, 29 September 2011

A little back story

Ok, so here is a little back story for all of you, so you can understand how I got to where I am today..... Well at least you will get a little tid bit into it anyways. It may seem ironic to say this but I am a very private person who doesn't air my dirty laundry. But since I have changed all of the names and exact locations I fell like I can let you into a personal side that isn't seen by many people and still remain private.

Being a single lady living in Fort McMurray isn't anything new. This has to be the capital of break ups and divorce. Everywhere you look there is a couple splitting up. I have always blamed this on the crazy site schedules and the greed people have for money. My journey as a single lady started one pretty spring day in April 2011. Believe it or not it was our 14 year anniversary. We were not married, but after a 14 year relationship with the same person, it sure did feel the same. This was to be an anniversary like no other. He had come back from visiting family and out of the blue said "I hate my life and can't do this anymore. I'm done" Well I was totally floored. I didn't see that coming at all. I knew it was going to be a weird week, as it always is after he had visited his family. But I had no idea he had planned on leaving me. I kept thinking "where is this coming from, what happened at his uncle bob's house" I did try talking to him about it, but he wasn't having anything to do with giving any type of reason or talking about anything at all. So that was it. Just as fast as you can turn a light switch on my life was turned upside down in a way that I never thought it would.  The next two months were hell, trying to split up our things.  Well really there wasn't much splitting to it, he took everything, the two vehicles, our home and everything else he wanted.  I had to find a new place to live, buy a new vehicle and still try to remain sane and show up to work everyday like nothing was wrong.  I had only told the people who were the very closetest to me.  I didn't tell co-workers until August 2011, four months after the fact.  Even than it was really hard talking to them about it.  It was a very hard time for me, a time that I vow to never go through again. 

This was how it all started for me.  If you asked me last year, would I be in this position now, I would have said you were crazy, that I was in a solid relationship and that’s how it would remain until one of us died.  But I guess you never do really know whats around the corner for you.  Things have started to settle down for me now, so I thought that I could share my experiences, and maybe see if there were anyother people going through the same thing as me. 

I will go back over the last 6 months and share some of the weird, funny and even the pity parties i had for myself.

I hope you enjoy my blog and maybe it will bring a smile to your face and even open your eyes to the strange world of being a single 32 year old in this crazy town.

Bubba :O)

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